SO…currently, it’s freakin’ hard to write ANYTHING (a shopping list, work emails, a thank you card…), especially my blog after having another child. Now that I am a working mom of two under the age of two, my evenings are spent bribing my 18-month-old to eat her dinner, while breastfeeding my 3-month-old, while my husband and I cook dinner for ourselves since Ella is a picky eater! By the time it’s 7 PM and the babies are in bed, I am so pooped I can barely choose a movie to stream on my TV’s Amazon app (with a glass of wine in hand, of course).
Alas, here we are on the eve of Blizzard Juno 2015 and my husband is on a business trip in Chicago, which means I am solo tonight. Perfect time to write down what’s been on my mind–so here it goes!
Um…actually, I don’t think I can really do that–it might scare you. Instead, how about some advice about what to think about before deciding to have some kids? I love passing along things I have learned in life:
1. Being married before having kids isn’t as important as finding someone who you want to have children with because you know they are a good person and will be a great parent. I didn’t know I wanted kids until I started dating Chris. It was mind blowing.
2. Save up! Thanks to our lovely middle class getting squished, it’s expensive to have kids. Daycare can be as much as $1,600 a month and a nanny can cost twice that. We saved money each month a year before we had Ella in a “Baby Fund” and it was worth it!
3. You need space. Space means different things to different people. For my husband and me, it meant having a backyard, free parking, and multiple bedrooms–so we left Manhattan.
4. Discuss your parenting goals with your partner. Chris and I made a fun list called “They type of mom/dad I want to be” while traveling to Montreal when I was pregnant with Ella.
5. You can function on less sleep than you think. I am NOT a morning person and I LOVE getting 8-9 hours of sleep. I went back to work on five hours of sleep a night when Luke was only 2 months. Is it hard? Sure. Can I do my job? Yes. Am I exhausted after 5 PM? Usually. But it’s temporary, so I put up with it and remind myself that the time I have with my baby Luke during the quiet of the wee hours is truly special. He always gives me a big smile right before I feed him and that is worth the lost sleep.
By the way, did I mention I was featured on GoodEnoughMother.com in an interview? Check it out here.